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Same sex dedication ceremonies - negotiating the gendered characteristics of ceremony traditions - sexuality


While a allegiance ceremony is based on a accepted wedding, so many established wedding customs are inherently based on the mixed gender of the couple. There are a add up to of ways in which this can be addressed for same sex couples.

I do not consider it is fitting for the partners each to take on a heterosexual role. Instead, I advocate that you assign character customs to the partners in its place of full roles (customs includes who enters first/last, who stands on the right, who takes the first vow, and so on), and also assign customs in duplicate (for example, both partners walk down the aisle as a replacement for of just one).

In arrangement a binder ceremony, you can start with a blank sheet. There are no hard-and-fast customs that all believes you MUST adhere to (well, apart from the ring and the always-important kiss after the declaration). As a result, you can do anything is authentic to you as a couple. You can have whoever you want stand up with you, and you can enter the ceremony space accompanied by whomever you wish.

In terms of your attendants/supporters, there is before now a precedent for mixed genders in above-board wedding parties. Since more and more associates are having the citizens they are close to stand up with them, fairly than sticking with the conventional gender divide, we are early to see a neutralisation of the gender of the roles by referring to the matron/maid of honour/chief bridesmaid and best man as "honour attendants" and bridesmaids and groomsmen as "attendants".

The gender bias in above-board ceremonies is most apparent in the way that a customary wedding party's beginning derives all of its flair and colour from the bride and the bridesmaids. The groomsmen, on the other hand, dress in staid black or grey and the identically dressed groom is separated from them exclusively by his style of boutonnire. While, for lesbian couples, the choices are more varied, if a gay connect applies the established dress code to all the men, the party lacks a focal point since the grooms are then almost indistinguishable from their attendants. Colour, style, boutonnires, and type of dress can all be used to bring some colour and isolation into the wedding party's attire.

One of the decisions that needs to be made and conveyed early to your celebrant, is how you want to be referred to and addressed at some stage in the ceremony. My advice, stick with your names. Just as your affiliation is inimitable and special, so are your names. Groom and Groom or Bride and Bride can be awkward, Partners has a nice gender-free inclusive ring, and for heavens sake, avoid banal awkwardnesses caused by assigning a "male" role and a "female" role. I honestly hope I never come diagonally "Bride and Groomette" ever again. Once was enough!

Jennifer Cram is a sought-after celebrant, based in Brisbane, Queensland Australia, who has a distinctive advantage in delivering one-of-a-kind allegiance ceremonies. For more in sequence check out her website http://gl-unions. jennifercram. com or, go to the Ask the Cyber Celebrant blog to ask a difficulty on any bearing of binder or other ceremonies.

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