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Mindfulness and sex: right there, right now - sexuality


Mindfulness is downright sexy.

After all, what's hotter than a partner who is paying attention? Being Right There, fully in the moment, is about as accurate as it gets.

So, it comes as a bit of a astonish to me that we don't exceedingly use the term "mindfulness" in next of kin to loving relationships--let alone love in the afternoon.

This be supposed to be common, mainstream, slap-your-forehead-and-say-"Duh!" kind of knowledge. I don't pretend to be an practiced on what goes on among the sheets (although I did conceive and give birth to four offspring contained by five years) but I do know this: it is completely finally awkward to have a truly fulfilling romantic sexual flash if not you are Right There in it.

Oh, sure, it's doable to be subjected to corporal pleasure when your mind is on something--or someone--other than that which shares your sheets. But we're conversation about meaningful, connected, one-with-the-universe kind of lovemaking, and that, my friends, calls for Mindfulness with a funds M.

It doesn't have to be tantric. You don't have to master every kama sutra position. It doesn't need to be burn-the-house-down wild. You don't even need any props or caring devices.

It can be your conventional Tuesday night follower arrange in your socks and still be ka-ZAM--if you're paying attention.

Oh, and here's a not-so-secret secret: if you are paying attention, likelihood are good that your partner will be artificial and appreciative an adequate amount of to start paying more awareness as well. See how that works?

Just as some ancestors assume to have eloquent children dinners with the tv blaring, some folks crack to have feel-the-earth-move sex while magic grocery lists or cast memos in their heads.

Not possible.

By bringing mindfulness to the bedroom and beyond, you will also bring a better sense of aim and focus, and your body will do a lot beat when your mind is on the same page.

Instead of subsequent those magazine articles that tell you "what do to in bed to drive him/her wild!!!!!" it would be more beneficial to focus on what NOT to do. In other words, do only that which you are doing, and naught else.

The next time you get lucky, get mindful. Be Right There, fully wrapped up in your sensations, connections, and loving data lines with your partner. Put your whole heart--and mind--into it.

Now, that's sexy.

Maya Charm Frost is a mind masseuse in Portland, Oregon. By means of her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she teaches eyes-wide-open ways to get calm, clear and creative. To subscribe to her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage, visit http://www. Massageyourmind. com


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